In our previous article we looked at beginning to get an understanding of what our kids enjoy about golf and beginning to understand their relationship with the game so that we as parents can contribute to a lifelong enjoyment of the game…
One of the key elements we have mentioned is the questions that we ask our children and we need to be aware of how the questions we ask can produce a very different set of results within our children’s mind when the questions at first glance seem very similar…
One of the things I coach professional golfers in is becoming excellent at their post round evaluation…
If we look at this from a parent’s perspective with the questions we can ask…
Question:
What did you learn from today’s round?
What do you think went wrong today?
These are similar at first glance however producing vastly different results…
The answer two question 2 will result in your child going back into and re-living what went wrong (NEITHER USEFUL or ENJOYABLE).
However the answer to question one results in the child beginning to think as to what I can learn from today’s round even if it wasn’t great and has a positive undertone.
If we can understand one simple rule we can begin to apply it to all the questions we ask our children.
In life and golf people will be either at cause (creating a change or an improvement) or being at effect (being affected by something or someone)…