Motivational Mapping for children

I have often wondered what on earth made my children do what they did.  But they are all grown up now and have careers and children and do adult things.  When they were little they were often a bit of a mystery.  I did try to work it out.  I thought ‘well this one keeps taking his bike apart, he must like practical things’.  Then I had one who drifted and day dreamed, I guessed he would meander through life and his older brother was diligent and followed his Dad’s footsteps.  That’s the boys.  Now my daughter is a different kettle of fish altogether.  She was…

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What’s stopping you?

Have you been thinking of taking up a new career?  Maybe there is something exciting that you have always wanted to do but for one reason or another you have never quite got round to it. Do you have a small voice in the back of your head telling you why it won’t work?  Perhaps you are afraid?    Here’s some good news for you.  There are a couple of things that you can do today that will make a real difference.    First of all, book onto a course that will really help.  Find out what motivates you and from that learn to…

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Anxiety, a client’s perspective

OK – so you reckon I’m not really anxious? What about that worry I have that I might not be able to pay my mortgage next month? I feel pretty anxious about that. And I think that my best friend is really cross with me – I feel anxious about that. In fact, I feel uptight and stressed. Its all very well but actually……. Wow, just slow down. This is how I used to feel much of the time. Until, that is, I learnt how to get on top of these thoughts. Because that’s all they are; thoughts. My anxiety…

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Why would you want to learn about NLP?

Before I knew anything about NLP I was sceptical, why would I spend my hard-earnt cash learning about neuro-linguistic programming? Now I totally ‘get it’ and want to share this understanding with you. Going on an NLP course helps you to better understand yourself.  Basically, if you don’t understand yourself then you are unlikely to understand other people.  You will learn about your patterns of thought and where they come from – why you think in the way that you do.  Imagine knowing where that thought has come from and realising that you don’t have to think that way.  Just…

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Beliefs

‘Our beliefs strongly influence our behaviour’ (‘Introducing Neuro-Linguistic Programming’ Connor & Seymour)  – a really strong statement.  A quick example – if you believe that you can’t sing then you are most unlikely to consider joining a choir.    So why do we have beliefs?  Our belief system is how we make sense of our world.  We believe in the laws of nature, we know that we can’t step off tall buildings and survive, we know that fire burns and that night follows day.  We learn these things as we grow up but we also learn beliefs that shape our lives.  Our parents…

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Running on empty

When you think of caring, who do you think of?  Probably not yourself.  We have a huge tendency to look after everyone else and then what happens?  We forget to look after ourselves.  Imagine if you went to see a doctor and he was dripping blood from an open wound – I guess you would suggest that he sorted himself out before he came near you.  And that’s what we all need to do.  We can’t help others from a place of pain and hurt, from a place of emptiness.  The skill lies in finding ways to make ourselves whole and…

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Clear the screen

Do you have a lot of ‘yes buts’ in your life?  Do you spend a lot of time being afraid of what might happen or looking to recreate something good that has happened before?  Bevis tells us the tale of the rattlesnake and the butterfly.  If you are out walking and you encounter a rattlesnake you will quite probably be pretty freaked, I know I would.  If you are not careful you will be on the lookout for rattlesnakes every time you go out – especially if you go back to where you saw it the first time.    How about…

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Motivation moves us. (A clients take on Motivation)

I am often puzzled about what motivates me.  I want to have high minded principles and be motivated by altruism; ‘I do what I do because its important to help other people’.  To a certain extent this is completely true but I am also motivated by money.  This has been a big learning point for me.  I claim that I love what I do so much that I would do it for free, but the honest reality is different.  This is so important, our clients / friends / colleagues will often tell us what they think we want to hear,…

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Frustration!

I used to get really frustrated when things didn’t turn out how I had planned.  I have a new idea at least every day, I make plans and I expect things to work perfectly.  I expect to write that book in a week, get lots of clients, get fit and lose weight.  I thought this was all quite reasonable. But low and behold, it didn’t all happen!  The outcomes didn’t meet my expectations, I was frustrated (after all, I had done my best, I’d worked really hard) and I was so very disappointed.  The fact that I had written the…

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