Beliefs

‘Our beliefs strongly influence our behaviour’ (‘Introducing Neuro-Linguistic Programming’ Connor & Seymour)  – a really strong statement.  A quick example – if you believe that you can’t sing then you are most unlikely to consider joining a choir.    So why do we have beliefs?  Our belief system is how we make sense of our world.  We believe in the laws of nature, we know that we can’t step off tall buildings and survive, we know that fire burns and that night follows day.  We learn these things as we grow up but we also learn beliefs that shape our lives.  Our parents…

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Running on empty

When you think of caring, who do you think of?  Probably not yourself.  We have a huge tendency to look after everyone else and then what happens?  We forget to look after ourselves.  Imagine if you went to see a doctor and he was dripping blood from an open wound – I guess you would suggest that he sorted himself out before he came near you.  And that’s what we all need to do.  We can’t help others from a place of pain and hurt, from a place of emptiness.  The skill lies in finding ways to make ourselves whole and…

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Clear the screen

Do you have a lot of ‘yes buts’ in your life?  Do you spend a lot of time being afraid of what might happen or looking to recreate something good that has happened before?  Bevis tells us the tale of the rattlesnake and the butterfly.  If you are out walking and you encounter a rattlesnake you will quite probably be pretty freaked, I know I would.  If you are not careful you will be on the lookout for rattlesnakes every time you go out – especially if you go back to where you saw it the first time.    How about…

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Motivation moves us. (A clients take on Motivation)

I am often puzzled about what motivates me.  I want to have high minded principles and be motivated by altruism; ‘I do what I do because its important to help other people’.  To a certain extent this is completely true but I am also motivated by money.  This has been a big learning point for me.  I claim that I love what I do so much that I would do it for free, but the honest reality is different.  This is so important, our clients / friends / colleagues will often tell us what they think we want to hear,…

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Frustration!

I used to get really frustrated when things didn’t turn out how I had planned.  I have a new idea at least every day, I make plans and I expect things to work perfectly.  I expect to write that book in a week, get lots of clients, get fit and lose weight.  I thought this was all quite reasonable. But low and behold, it didn’t all happen!  The outcomes didn’t meet my expectations, I was frustrated (after all, I had done my best, I’d worked really hard) and I was so very disappointed.  The fact that I had written the…

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What we can learn from the animal kingdom

  Have you ever spent time in nature, staring at the ocean, up into the night sky or even into the eyes of a favourite pet? What happens? We become still and life’s cares seem to disappear…. To of my family members have asked what Iit is about the seaside or flowers that makes them feel more peaceful and the answer is always the same… That peace is inside each of us and emerges when we look in awe or love at nature, nature and our favourite pets don’t have to do lists and they aren’t fighting to get to…

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Overcome your internal conflict..

Overcome your internal conflict and find a clear decisive direction for you for the future! Internal conflict is something we have all had at one time or another.. That internal battle between two conflicting choices and not being 100% confident which decision is the right one at that moment in time.. During NLP Training we learn a techniques called parts integration. The main focus of parts integration is to resolve an individual’s internal conflict. How often have you experienced “part of me wants to do X, but another part of me wants to do Y” – this is precisely the…

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What results can NLP practitioner training deliver for me?

An NLP Practitioner Course gives you a greater understanding of how the mind works and with knowledge of the presuppositions of neuro linguistic programming (beliefs that excellent communicators hold surrounding communication and their behaviour) – you can change the way you think to assist you in your ability to positively influence other people. Secondly, once you have a better understanding of what constitutes good communication you’ll become less judgemental and have a greater understanding of where people’s behaviour is coming from. You’ll find that you are much more able to adapt your communication style to suit the needs of different…

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NLP and deep wisdom complimentary or contrary?

Many people in the coaching and personal development world can at times get carried away by the latest coaching trend, ditching their previous philosophy to latch onto the latest thing… Within NLP one of the key principles is that of curiosity which means taking a look at all development principles candidly and assessing how each can help people and in what context… Having spent hours and hours reading a variety of books from authors such as, Eckhart Tolle, Deepak Chopra, Michael Neill, Sydney Banks, George Mumford (to name a few) certain conclusions can be drawn… Eckhart Tolle I think explains…

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